Nothing
can take the fun out of going out like the stress of
trying to figure out what to talk about on a
first date. Remember is that
there are two of you there and you are not solely
responsible for making sure both of you have something
to talk about throughout the date. He is on the
date, too, and should make an effort to keep the
conversation going. Also, you have
your own life and your own experiences. You have far
more to talk about than you think on your first
date!
First
dates are mostly about feeling each other out and making
a good impression.
When planning on what to talk about, first
date conversations should always be light and
comfortable for both people. Avoid talking
about anything heavy on the first date like politics,
religion, money or other topics that have the potential
to cause tension when two people are just getting to
know each other.
Also, avoid mentioning anything about past
relationships.
No man wants to hear about his date’s old
boyfriends on a first date. He may also feel
that your need to talk about old relationships indicate
you have unfinished business and are still somehow tied
to your old boyfriends. Nothing you talk
about on a first date that has to do with any past
relationships will go over well at
all.
When
you have to dive into your arsenal of what to talk about
on a first date, try to remember that it is just as
important to listen as it is to speak. The constant
chatter of a woman isn’t particularly attractive on a
first date or any other time. Men like to feel
as if they are being given attention on a date and if
you make sure you pay attention and listen while he
talks, it will make a great impression on
him.
First
dates are the perfect time to find out what you have in
common with your date! There are many
topics you can bring up that shouldn’t cause any awkward
moments or offend your date. Music is
something that just about everyone enjoys and it is a
great way to get your date to open up and talk a
bit.
Mention your favorite artists or your favorite
CD’s in your collection. Talk about a
concert you went to or one that is coming up. Sometimes the
talk about music can even lead into interpretation of
lyrics.
Music is universally expressive and an excellent
topic to talk about on a first
date.
Other
topics that are excellent for a first date include
places you enjoy going or have been, favorite movies or
actors, animals, favorite foods and hobbies. You can also
talk about your families including siblings and where
you both grew up. Many men enjoy
sports and like to talk about their favorite teams or
players.
You don’t have to be a fan of what you end up
talking about, but make the effort to listen and be
interested in what your date has to
say.
Now
that you have an idea of what to talk about on a
first date, you may be able to enjoy yourself a
bit more.
Allow yourself to look forward to your first date
with this person and keep an open mind about the
possibilities.
Above all, keep whatever you talk about light and
have a good time getting to know each other through
talking on your first date.
