You have
conquered the dating scene and found a man you think
might be the one.
Want to get married? Moving from
dating to marriage brings the game and the stakes to a
whole new level.
Scared?
Probably yes and excited as well to think about
it. Just
the thought of “How to get married?” gives most of us
cold shivers down our spine. Here are three
thoughts that you may find useful when thinking about a
guy and “forever” in the same breath.
How to get
married – You
The first
and most important question to answer is “Are you ready
for this?”
Sometimes it is easy to get caught in the moment
and excitement and forget the basic question. Are you the
confident, independent woman you always wanted and will
need to be for marriage? Do you have the
inner strength to be true to yourself in a relationship
and give your man help and support when he needs
it? Have
you accomplished your goals for yourself by this time in
your life?
You need to consider marriage carefully from a
position of strength and confidence versus need. To make a great
marriage as an equal, respected partner for life,
you must be ready first.
How to get
married – Him
Mindful of
the emotions and excitement again, you must really stop
and ask yourself if the man of your dreams is really
ready and a great prospect for forever and ever. Many of the
considerations are the same as for your readiness. Is he
independent and confident in life? Is he dragging a
lot of baggage that you don’t want to deal with in the
form of ex-wife, parents, debt, kids, and more? Everyone has a
past, but you have to really think long and hard about
dealing with his past every day. If he just ended
a long term relationship, take some time to plan forever
to make sure the “rebound” is not getting him. Is your choice a
strong partner while dating? Treats you as an
equal and respected part of the relationship? If he doesn’t,
you need to really think hard about a long engagement or
even waiting for that event. Dating is good
for finding out about each other and simpler than being
engaged or married.
How to get
married – Partners together
The last
and perhaps most important area to think about is how
are you together as a pair? Dating can show
you all of the fun in a person, but how do you both deal
together on difficult issues like money, career, kids or
family relations.
There should be lots of fun and romance in
planning a marriage commitment, but reality and the
facts are equally important. Does he support
your goals and aspirations? Do you support
his? Often
these ideas are more important in the long run and you
need to pay attention.
