Getting
a shy guy to talk to you may seem like an
impossible challenge, but it really isn’t. Shy guys are
just like other guys except that they have a bit of
hesitancy when it comes to social situations. It isn’t that
shy guys don’t like girls or they don’t like social
interaction. Shy guys just need a bit of nudging to get
them comfortable enough to talk to a nice girl. Approaching a
shy guy and initiating a conversation is exactly how
you get a shy guy to talk to you.
When you
are going to approach a shy guy, you need to do so with
a gentle manner.
Most shy guys are put off by loud and boisterous
people and avoid remaining around them if possible. The last thing
you want is for your shy guy to be thinking more about
how to make a quick exit than what you are saying to
him.
Introduce yourself to you shy guy and offer him a
complement on something that won’t make him
self-conscious like his clothes or an accessory like a
watch. If
you comment on his looks, he may feel too self-conscious
at first.
Save a compliment on his hair or the color of his
eyes for a later conversation. The more
comfortable a shy guy is when talking to you, the more
he’ll be able to focus on what you are saying rather
than how shy he is feeling.
If your
guy is resistant to your gentle attempts at
conversation, questions are how to get a shy guy to talk
to you.
Even the shyest guy doesn’t want to appear
incredibly rude by avoiding a girl’s questions. Ask your shy guy
about safe things like television shows, books and
music. You
can also talk about places he likes to go and things he
likes to do.
You may find that you and your shy guy have more
in common than you both thought and conversation may
flow a bit easier once you are able to connect that
way.
Depending
on how shy a particular guy is, you may have to be the
one to take the initiative to suggest meeting to talk
further.
You may not want to talk about setting up a date
the first couple of times you talk to a shy guy. Ease him into
the process of getting to know you and getting
comfortable with you. Once you feel
that there is a good level of comfort between you and
your shy guy, go ahead and ask him out! Patience, a
gentle approach and initiative is how to get a
shy guy to talk to you.
