People
everywhere are looking for that special someone. They want to
find love that will last a
lifetime.
But even though so many are looking, very few
people actually know how to find love.
Rules of the
Hunt
There
is a misconception that there is a "right" way to find
love. The
truth is how you find love is as individual as your
fingerprints.
You do not have to dress a certain way or follow
any "rules".
Be sure of who you are and make choices that you
can live with that fit your quest for
love.
Where
to Look
The
first thing to remember when searching for love is what
you aren't looking for. There is a big
difference between finding someone for casual sex and
finding love that will last. This isn't to
say that you couldn't meet the perfect person at the
bar, but the vast majority of nightclub hook-ups are
more likely to lead to sex than marriage. It is important
to think about what you want in that special someone and
to look for love in places that reflect those
interests.
For example, if your faith is central to your
life, you might find the perfect mate at a
church-sponsored group or event. If your love of
animals is something that drives you, you might find
love by taking your pet to obedience training or to the
local dog park.
How
to Act
While
there may be a trend at younger ages to become someone
else to find love, that isn’t the best way. Those
relationships usually end because real personalities
eventually emerge.
Instead, you should be yourself. You want a
person to love you, for who you are, not who you can
pretend to be.
Find people with common interests by letting your
own personality shine.
That's
Great, but How Do I…
Even
though there is no specific rulebook for finding love,
there are some common sense ideas to keep in mind. The types of
things you find appealing in the opposite sex probably
appeals to them in a certain way as well. No one likes
head games, so don't play them. Figure out who
you are as an individual so that when someone finds love
with you, they find it with who you really are, not with
someone still searching for their identity. People who
obsess about relationships tend to be the ones that fail
at them, so develop relationships outside your love
life.
Having a wide social network will not only
increase the pool of people from which you can
potentially find love, it will also let others know that
you have a life outside of any potential relationship
with them.
So,
figure out what you want and go find it. Just be sure
that you are yourself, so that the other person finds
love with the real you.
