Okay! So
he’s married! So what? If this is the attitude that you
keep, guess you must take a minute to read on. Dating
married men might be an adventurous and the most
beautiful thing in the beginning, but the after effects
that it displays can ruin your life later. Its not that
all married men are deceptive and villainous in nature,
but certainly, if the man you are dating now has tried
his chances on a woman other than his wife, then there
is no guarantee that he is not going to dump you. If at
present you are dating a married man, the most sensible
thing to do as an independent and sensible woman, is to
end the relationship as quickly as possible. Not only
are you playing around with your life, but also, you may
be the reason why the child will not have his mother who
gave birth to him along his side. You may be the reason
why that particular family is not happy any more. Such
kind of a situation may or may not come in your life. A
couple of points that you must remember to analyze
before you get in or get out of this disturbing relation
are discussed below.
A lot many
times you may come across self proclaimed hero’s
[married men] who leave their wife for the other woman
who obviously is either a fool or the smartest one to
choose. Even though the society is changing and is
becoming more liberal, but this too isn’t quite noticed
in the society today. For most of the times, the woman
who comes second eventually remains the second. Handling
his wife as well his girl friend is an art which a few
men have managed to master. Hopefully you’re not that
unlucky to find the man you shouldn’t be getting in
touch with. This isn’t any elaboration or a trail to
prove the married male wrong, but maybe an eye-opener.
If these explanatory reasons aren’t enough read on to be
convinced!
Love or no
love, stay out of being a married man’s girlfriend. At
times, girls feel a certain pride in dating a married
man. But surely, they might just be fools! The points to
remember which might be a little effective on you would
be:
1>
If this
relation ever ends, you’re the one to be eventually left
out alone. Since a wife always stands by his husband
your much married date would definitely have his wife
beside him. When such a relationship ends its mostly the
girl friend who is left alone and the married man
carries on with his life. Try and understand the
delicacy of his relation. Can you handle the burden of
breaking a home, separating a mother from his child and
husband from his wife?
2>
You are
bold, independent, single and confident! Indulging in a
relation with a married man, can have a negative impact
on you and also lower your self esteem. Think of the
situation you can face because of your married boy
friend. You’re capable of much more. Thus, keep your
self on the top.
3>
Many women
in the beginning of the relationship do not care what
the society thinks. But you can never forget the fact
that you live in a society and thus being normal and
living according to the norms of the society is the only
option. Don’t let people think of you as a scar!
These are
just a few yet very important points that you must keep
in mind. For those of you who are already part of such a
relationship:
1>
You can
meet interesting singles at work or wherever you can and
try to get along. This may not be out of romantic need.
What you need to understand is that you deserve what
belongs to only you. Spoof your self confidence by
falling in love with yourself first.
2>
What makes
you think that the married man you are dating would
leave his wife and get to you? Commitments can fall
short. After all, he would think ten times before he
breaks it to his wife, while you wouldn’t even think
once before you head to him. If your being with him is
over an assumption, seriously; give yourself a dose of
‘woman’s worth.
Love can
happen at any time, any where and yes, for all of us who
feel it, it’s definitely. But don’t forget that what you
think is love may be a simple infatuation of he who’s
mature, well settled and your dream. But he seriously,
married men shouldn’t be you call. It’s the best when
you grow with a man, marry him, and see him turning the
dream you ever saw into a reality.
