Are you looking for a deep, loving, and committed relationship, one that leads to marriage? If the answer is positive, you are in good company. Most mature women look for a relationship like this.
Short
affairs may be great, since getting more experience is
always important. However, at some stage of your life,
you expect to find the right man, “the one” for
you.
Since
healthy relationships are mutual, in order to find “the
one”, you must be “the one” for somebody else. The best
way to do so is to be irresistibly attractive to
men.
Do
you want to learn more about the way of life and
behavior of an irresistible woman, somebody who is most
likely to get a marriage proposal? If
you do, you must read this article. In
this article, you’ll discover:
1.
Which
women
are most likely to receive marriage
proposals?
2.
Seven
ways
to become irresistibly attractive to men.
If
you are looking to get married, or at least to find a
long-term, loving, and committed relationship, the best
way to get it is to be the woman of somebody’s dreams.
As I’ve already mentioned in the 4th day
lesson, men are different. However, there are some
qualities that everybody likes. For instance, such
qualities as independence, inner balance, and beauty can
attract everyone.
#1:
Set your
goals.
First
of all, make your decisions and define your purposes.
Is
it getting more dating experience?
Is
it meeting more men, in order to learn more about your
preferences?
Is
it meeting your future spouse, “The
One”?
Set
your goals and follow them. For example, if your goal is
getting married, don’t waste your time on a relationship
that can’t lead to marriage. You can’t propose to him,
of course, during the first date, but you shouldn’t stay
in a relationship with somebody who obviously just wants
to have some fun.
Adopt
the behavior and terminology of a woman who is looking
for a long-term relationship. Put aside all the
destructive thoughts such as: “You live only once”,
“Who
takes no chances, does not win”, and “He’s still
immature but I love him”, etc. This state of mind will
not reach your goals.
Stay
only in a relationship with a reasonable potential to
become a long-term one. Don’t compromise on your goals.
#2:
Don’t
be “high–maintenance”.
If
you’re looking for a spouse, don’t turn him into your rescuer.
Don’t expect him to solve your personal and financial
problems, or to give you a different (i.e. better) life.
He is just like you: somebody who is looking for a
spouse, not a rehabilitation project.
While
looking for a spouse, think of the relationship as
mutual. Remember the 1st day lesson? If you
want attract a man, give him the sense that he needs
you. Think of a value you can suggest to him.
A
man will see you as a “relationship material” and commit
to you only if you suggest great additional value,
something that can improve his quality of life. Give him
support; give him your skills (if
you don’t have enough skills, learn new ones); and offer
enjoyable company. This way, you become much more
attractive to any man.
#3:
Improve your
physical appearance.
Take
control of your overall physical appearance, including
clothes, hair, makeup, skin, body weight, muscle tone,
and general health. Your physical appearance is not only
a means of immediate attraction, but it is also a way to
improve your self-confidence.
#4:
Go out,
socialize, and meet new
men.
As
you enlarge your social circle and the number of people
you come in contact with, you can statistically raise
your chances of meeting suitable men, one of whom might
become your future spouse. Increasing the number of
places to meet people widens your reservoir of
opportunities and so strengthens your self-confidence –
a must when it comes to being a desirable woman.
Keep
in mind that your dating scene must match your goals and
preferences. For instance, if you expect to meet
somebody in a pub, be ready to work harder to make this
relationship serious. For some reason, lots of people
insist on treating meetings at a pub as "not serious",
even if it is perfectly clear to them that the same
person that was at the pub last night will be sitting in
a luxurious office the next morning.
#5:
Put
every new acquaintance in proportion.
You
have met a new man and talked to him. That's great, and
it testifies that you are on the right path -- but don't
make him the center of your romantic life after just one
conversation or even after several. Don’t marry him in
your head. Fantasizing too much about a new man can
damage you in two ways:
1. It
can take away from enjoying the process of dating.
2. It
can make you pushy and demanding.
Remember
that he is still just an acquaintance and there is no
way to know what his part will be in your dating life.
Maybe he is a partner with whom you can perfect your
social skills. Maybe he is only one-date material. Maybe
he is a guy you can harmlessly flirt with. Maybe he is a
catalyst to another man who is considering approaching
you. Or maybe he is your a soul mate. Keep meeting other
men and talking to them. As long as you are not in a
relationship that is mutually binding, you must remain
as active as possible in the dating scene.
#6:
Don’t
be too available.
Do
not change plans in order to meet a man, except in very
rare cases and when it is absolutely clear to you that
he is making a lot of effort to accommodate you. Also,
never wait until the evening to find out whether you’re
meeting. If you haven’t planned anything in advance,
make your plans and do not cancel them at his
request.
Use
the “two-hour rule”: Do not agree to a meeting “in two
hours”. If your man is calling Saturday night to make a
plan, refuse. Otherwise, he’ll be probably happy to find
out that you are always available, that setting up a
meeting with you can wait till the last minute. That way
if something more interesting comes up you can be
postponed to another time, (whenever that is, as you are
always available anyway), and, if worse comes to worst)
that he can do all of his errands and arrive at your
place at 11:00 pm.
Refuse
last minute suggestions even if you’re not busy. Believe
me, if
he really likes you, he’ll call earlier next
time.
#7
Don’t
give up your life even if you have a new partner
Sometimes
a new relationship is accompanied by feelings of
celebration complete with fanfare and fireworks which
make you want to dump everything and dive right into the
pool of love. Nevertheless, do not rush to give up your
previous life. It sometimes happens that, after a few
weeks of bliss, the other party might feel smothered or
saturated by the relationship, and start missing his
former life which will make you feel rejected. It could
be you that sobers up first and finds out, to your
dismay, that your life has changed completely and
there’s nothing left besides the relationship. When your
entire personal space is filled with a relationship, you
are less attractive to your partner and less fortified
against the little disappointments the relationship
might cause.
In
order to avoid loneliness and frustrations, it is
important that you continue leading a full and
interesting life in addition to what you get out of the
new relationship. Do not neglect anything that was
important to you before you met, whether these are
hobbies, friends, classes, or sports. On the practical
level, you can divide your spare time between several
occupations with the encounters with your partner
allocated to two/three (never more than that) evenings a
week.
I
would like to wish you the best of luck in finding a
spouse. And don't forget to have fun on the way!
